Published inAn Injustice!·PinnedUse Whatever Pronouns You WantThe working title for this essay was “Gender Neutral Pronouns Aren’t New, Get Over It, You Fucking Cowards.” Alas, I am bound by the chains of benevolent queerness, so instead, let’s go over what pronouns are, the history of the singular “they,” and some not-so-new neopronouns. What are pronouns? Simply put: pronouns function…Pronouns4 min readPronouns4 min read
Published inAn Injustice!·PinnedVisibly TiredSeveral days ago, March 31st marked Transgender Day of Visibility. This day is annually dedicated to celebrating transgender people and raising awareness to discrimination. Each year, I am grateful to see so many of my transgender siblings’ selfies. To see more and more people assert themselves, unabashedly so, is a…Transgender4 min readTransgender4 min read
Mar 7Essay Revision ChecklistAs both a writer and writing tutor, I’m familiar with the most challenging part of writing — finishing the first draft! But once that’s accomplished, then what? By using a revision checklist, a writer can systematically review their essay and ensure it’s effective and well-written. Thesis statement Is the thesis clear and…Writing Tips2 min readWriting Tips2 min read
Feb 17, 2022“How do I know if I’m Transgender or Cisgender?”“How do I know if I’m Transgender or Cisgender?” Some folks in the transgender community will say that by asking that, it’s an indicator that you actually are transgender. Respectfully, I disagree. Questioning your relationship to gender may lead to the realization that you’re transgender. That’s how we all got here, but that doesn’t mean it’s the sole outcome. …Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
Nov 9, 2021My Grandma Being A Trans Ally Improves My LifeEarly this month, I had the daunting task of navigating getting health insurance in the United States. For those outside of the U. S., this may not make total sense, but I assure you, it’s a maze of confusing terms, tables, and price tags. That’s why I requested the assistance…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
Aug 10, 2021Advice for Allies — How do I refer to trans friends in the past tense?I asked my cisgender friends if they had any transgender-related questions. Mary asked how does she respectfully refer to one of her transgender friends in the past-tense. I’m happy to elaborate! A lot of us have at least one transgender friend or relative. There’s even a chance you’ve known this…Equality2 min readEquality2 min read
May 21, 2021Get In, We’re Going To TherapyFinding Someone Who Clicked Among more local circles, I don’t mind disclosing more about my mental health struggles and the healing journey. When I’m asked what’s worked for me in therapy, my general response is along the lines of: Medication helped me get in the space where I can then do the work to…Therapy4 min readTherapy4 min read
May 7, 2021Healing My Trauma Through Storytellingcontent warnings: frank discussion of attempted homicide, sexual abuse Part of my struggle in crafting this post has been the nature of my complex trauma, the various traumas which intermingle and overlap. For simplification, I will be referencing only one sexual trauma. The one I’ve chosen is the one I’m…Mental Health6 min readMental Health6 min read
Nov 19, 2020My Birth Name Is A Dress I Don’t WearI’ve been reflecting on my birth name. Even going by Ash now, I find my birth name to be beautiful. I appreciate my parents gifting it to me. I enjoyed the simple elegance and the infrequency of encountering others who wore it as their first name. …Transgender2 min readTransgender2 min read
